Mom and Dad really didn’t want me to move away from them at nineteen. They hadn’t enjoyed this parenting relationship yet, apparently, and tried every way they could to keep me away. Dad even pretended to pull my back, thinking it would make me postpone the move. They didn’t realize how much I wanted to live alone.
Even though I was at university, I already had a remote job, and I needed a computer and complete silence to do it. With my parents and two dogs, it was never quiet and clean at home, and everything was perfect at my rented apartment.
No matter how much they tried to talk me into it, I still decided to move. My dad only helped me to load things into a cab and once stopped by to look at my new place, but my mom was terribly offended and did not want to see my new apartment.
My parents did not help me at all with contracts or payments, and when I started having health problems and I really wanted my mother to be with me while I ran around in hospitals, my parents did not deign to make time for me. My mother had only one excuse:
– You’re an adult, you live alone, what more help do you need?
It’s a good thing I was always surrounded by great people and great friends. If it wasn’t for my closest friend, going through the hard times in my life would have been unbearable. Maybe that’s what my parents hoped for-that I wouldn’t be able to cope on my own and then decide to go back to them. But my friend was learning to make my first payments for the apartment, and she visited me in the hospital when I was in pain with my stomach, and even helped me clean the apartment.
Now that I’m in my fourth year, my parents have cooled off a bit, they’ve gotten a taste of life without me. It’s enough for them that I stop by and bring them some goodies. Especially my mother’s mood is lifted by the fact that I have a boyfriend and now we are everywhere together – on trips, on vacation, on holidays. I don’t forget about my friend either, I always try to take her somewhere with us, though she doesn’t have a boyfriend yet. But she’s a wonderful person who always supports and helps, and so I’m happy to take her with us on a hike or rip with her to the sea for a couple of days. Such a thing with my mother would not work, but you can always do with a friend.
So parents are important, but even the closest sometimes turn away, and those who are not family, but just friends – will help and advise.
