– You could say that we had a unique wedding! – Inna shares. – When we were getting married our mother was expecting a baby. Thought the lady at almost forty-seven to have another child. My in-laws were deeply surprised by my mother-in-law’s pregnancy. Then my husband’s mother still took offense that the guests were whispering behind her back. I then told my husband, “What did she want almost fifty years pregnant?
A couple of months after the wedding my son, my mother gave birth. Inna does not understand the decision of her mother-in-law and believes that the mother of the spouse acted very foolishly.
– The biological father of the child disappeared as soon as the expectant mother informed him of her exciting situation. – Inna shares. – The absence of a man around did not bother Melissa. She told us then that the pregnancy at such age – is a gift from the Higher Power, as she and her ex-husband dreamed of having a second child, but they never succeeded. But then one day everything happened by itself. My mother-in-law decided that she was going to have a baby without a man by her side, without a steady job or even the minimum amount of money.
Inna says that her mother-in-law already started to get on her and her son’s nerves during the pregnancy.
– She was always complaining about something: she got morning sickness, or a headache, or no energy, or her blood pressure was skyrocketing. You can say that she was lying for the entire nine months. Of course she was categorically contraindicated to work. All the time my husband drove me to his mother, so I had to clean, cook, and wash.
I’ve told him a hundred times that pregnancy – it’s not an illness, and therefore, even in an interesting situation, a woman can take care of themselves, and your mother is no exception. And he kept telling me that his mother was old, so she couldn’t do without other people’s help. It killed me that his mother had made his mess, and we had to clean it up. Why we should solve her problems is unclear… When my mother-in-law gave birth things only got worse.
– My husband’s parent is a very lazy person – shares Inna. – Even with her own child we have to send her out for a walk on the street from under the sticks. She actually does not cook at home, the child eats only formula or baby jars. For her no one is an authority, and she does not listen to anyone’s advice. If I start telling her something, she immediately shuts me down and says I don’t know anything, because I don’t have children of my own. Yes, I may not have children of my own yet, but I have a brother who I actually raised, so I know very well how to take care of little ones. Of course, the mother of the spouse is a grown woman and if she chooses to have a baby like that, she should raise her own child. However, the mother-in-law’s problems are the problems of Inna’s husband, since her son fully supports his parent and her daughter.
– We have to survive practically on what I earn, as he gives almost all of his salary to his mother: he pays her rent, buys groceries, and dresses his mother and sister. I hoped that when the baby turns three, everything will slowly begin to form, but it was not there. When maternity leave began to come to an end, my mother began to say that who would take her to work something in fifty years with a small child in his arms. And what she thought before is not clear? Why didn’t she think about it at the time she decided to give birth?
A young family is so lucky that they don’t have a life of their own. They can’t even begin to solve their own housing problem, because they don’t even have the money to do it. On top of everything else, they need to have their own child, because time is running out. Inna does not want to be an old mommy. However, now there is no way for her to go on maternity leave, because it will be very hard for them without her earnings.
Her husband is already beginning to talk about that first need to put his sister on her feet, and then his own baby to think about, as he is not able to pull two women with small children.
– I then asked my husband straight out, what does it mean to “bring him to his feet” in school to learn or give him in marriage? – shares Inna.
– You need to give birth to your daughter, and the sooner the better, – says Inna’s mother. – You have to understand that for your husband a family without children – it’s not a family, because she still sees you as his girlfriend, and the family for him – it’s his mother and sister. You should act the same way as his mother – give birth, and the rest is just his problem, let him think about how to feed his family. Maybe this will at least change something in your relationship!
What do you think?
