– I’m going to my daughter to help after childbirth, she recently gave me a second grandson, – shared with a fellow traveler woman. – My daughter’s eldest son is just over three. My daughter is with children herself for days, she needs help…
The companion was holding a tiny dog dressed in a bright jumpsuit and booties. It was about dogs that the ladies first started talking. After discussing the breed of doggie and the benefits of using different brands of food, they began to talk about life.
– Would you really have to travel daily to the capital to visit your daughter? – the dog’s owner asked. – It won’t be easy enough! My husband for two years, went to the capital so to work, tired as an ox. When he found work in the field, he almost died of happiness.
– Of course, I don’t go every day, but at least three times a week for sure. – My grandmother sighs. – I help my daughter clean the house, cook, take my grandson for walks, go shopping. In fact, I have enough to do. Both my daughter and I don’t squat all day and struggle to cope. I don’t even know how she would manage everything on her own.
– Is the daughter married? Why doesn’t the spouse help?
– She is married,” the woman answered with a slight resentment in her voice. – He helps as much as possible, but he works from morning till night. He comes home from work to put the eldest to bed, and for that he is grateful.
– Doesn’t the other grandmother have one, or does she live far away?
– Brother-in-law? She lives down the street, but you can’t get any help from her. She firmly believes that it’s not her children, but the children owe it to her to help. She is always trying to extort money from my son-in-law: now she needs it for medicine, now for a health resort, now she has decided to have her teeth put in…
– Does she have serious health problems?
– No, for her age she is a healthy person. She’s just obsessed with herself. She loves herself. Now her son wants her to buy a trip to a sanatorium, and you know, that’s a lot of money. I do not understand how she has the conscience to extort money from her son? She understands perfectly well that now her son-in-law is the only breadwinner in the family. How can you take money from children when it is not easy for them!
– Maybe she really needs treatment. Who else is going to give her money if not her son? Well, the woman decided to put teeth in, so it’s more of a vital necessity than a whim. How can she live without teeth? And dentistry these days – it’s an expensive treat.
– If the pain is acute, the help is free, but without teeth – it’s not without hands. You can survive if you have no money. I don’t take money from my children, I get by with medical services under the MHI. And my sister-in-law has no complexes and prejudices.
And what do you think, if parents have been retired for a long time, can they ask their children for money or is it unacceptable, especially if the children themselves have small children? Older parents should not get on their children’s necks?
Or maybe it is normal for children to help their elderly parents, and there is nothing shameful about adult children taking care of their retired father and mother? To deprive the elderly of material support is a crime on the part of their children!
